If I were rich

Yep,

 

It’s an easy topic today. What would you do if you’re rich?

For me, If I were rich, I’d make all my ambition come true… and here are my three top wish list If I were rich (also posted on twitter):

#ifiwererich I’d invest my money 2 make a good housing complex w/ its own recycling center&garbage classification instruction in each house

=> well, in this case, I’d like to start in making small housing complex with an integrated recycling center. I’m inspired by Germany and Taiwan’s garbage classification system where people there have the awareness that garbage classifying is an important thing to do. If the people have the awareness in my housing complex, I’m sure they’ll spread the awareness to people surround them so that all Indonesian may be like Germany and Taiwan too!

#ifiwererich I’d also make an education foundation focusing on BRAIN GAIN issue. How to connect students-educational exchange-working in Indonesia

=> my ambition here is quite hard to achieve I know. The focus here is how do Brain Gain in Indonesia. So, the basic system of this foundation is, we want to recruit top students of Indonesia to be given a scholarship to go for a master degree outside Indonesia. The recruitment here is also the recruitment to work in Indonesia’s top companies. So, after they finish their master degree, they have to come back and work in Indonesia. Therefore, there won’t be any Brain Drain in the future I hope.

#ifiwererich I’d buy an Island and make it into a special province where I can build my own education,environmental & regulation system

=> in this case, It’s quite hard to change Indonesia as it is right now. We still have corrupted system. Therefore, if Indonesia wants to change, I believe we need to change the system. But I can’t change the big system we already have now. That’s why I want to buy an Island where I can create my own idealistic system. I’d build my own education, environmental, and regulation system first as the priority. It’s like a small state inside a state, but I believe if we’re successful in this island (province), the other province will look us up to as an example

 

Well, that’s all for today’s post, hope you guys can create something bigger than this when you’re rich

Dilema Mencari Pekerjaan

keknya isi note ini udah banyak yang nulis tapi, apa salahnya melihat dari perspektif seorang Sarah Budiyani? iya gak? *hehehe* mmmm… keknya di umur twenty something (berdasarkan note saudari Christanita Lily Karinda) kita memang menghadapi dilema hidup. seperti apa yang disebut masalah: kenyataan dan harapan yang berbeda. Ya, seperti layaknya manusia, kita punya harapan apalagi di usia kita yang twenty something ini dan dengan latar belakang pendidikan yang kita punya, kita juga punya idealisme. Masalahnya adalah setelah kita keluar dari tembok jenjang pendidikan S1 itulah kita akan menemukan kenyataan yang berbeda dan idealisme yang mulai perlahan-lahan runtuh. Kalo kita hidup di jaman dulu (yang tingkat lulusan S1nya masih sedikit dan populasi Indonesia yang masih sedikit pula) mungkin kita bisa berpikir secara sederhana. lulus-kerja jadi PNS-nikah-punya anak-pensiun-keliling dunia (lebay) tapi itulah garis besarnya berpikir sederhana yang mungkin masih dipegang teguh oleh beberapa teman-teman sekalian. namun, sekarang kita dihadapkan dengan berbagai kenyataan yang pelik! tingkat sarjana pengangguran membumbung tinggi, dunia yang mulai terglobalisasi yang menyebabkan kita harus mampu bersaing dengan jutaan manusia dari belahan bumi lain. Pertanyaan yang lalu muncul: Bagaimana saya bekerja? saya mau kerja apa? apa sih yang saya mau? wuidiiih.. jujur saya pun masih belum tau apa yang saya mau. Yang saya tau, saya termasuk orang yang suka berpetualang dan berkompetisi. Beruntunglah bagi kalian yang tau apa yang kalian mau. Kalau kalian termasuk kategori sudah tau yang kalian mau, maka fokuslah di bidang tersebut, jangan berpaku pada gaji. when you love something, you tend to do those things with all your heart, even if you get some money out of it, it’s because you love what you do, money is not the reason. tapiiiii, bagi orang yang belum tau apa yang kalian mau atau kalian butuh modal untuk mencapai tujuan hidup kalian, maka gak usah risau kalau kalian keluar jalur… gak usah peduli juga omongan orang yang “ih ngambil jalur kerjaan orang lain”, “ih lulusan ini kok kerjanya kek gini”.. DUDE, the person who knows yourself is YOU! you don’t need somebody to tell you this and that. entah kerja apapun kalian, dengan gaji apapun kalian.. saya harap kalian tidak mempedulikan omongan-omongan miring tentang itu. mencari duit sebanyak-banyaknya itu gak salah kok asalkan itu halal, yang penting malah kita gak ngerepotin orang lain.

mau kalian ngincer gajinya doang kek, menurut saya itu gak masalah karena toh, along the way you might find what you like and you already have the capital to build it.

 

so, bolehlahyaw berdilema-dilema.. tapi, do it wisely and be yourself…

semakin banyak pengalaman, semakin tau apa yang kamu mau dengan membanding-bandingkan pengalaman-pengalaman kerjamu!

OIA, jangan mau kalah sama sumber daya manusia yang dari luar negeri! banyak-banyak belajar dari mereka kenapa mereka bisa lebih daripada kita!

So, start looking for a job!!

Semangat ya kawan!

 

Sarah Budiyani

Run Sarah, RUN!

Pheww,

Lately I feel quite depressed by the fact that I’m the one last standing among the girls. My besties, Tatha and Nadia, they already graduated and working.

And I feel left out.

That’s why I’m rushing myself to finish my thesis.

I want before I’m getting 22, I already graduate!

So, wish me luck guys!

movie months!

Yep, this whole month I’ve watched several GUUUHREEEAAAAT movies with my friends, family, and special someone.

Most of them are indeed an inspiring movies like cin(T)a, he’s not that into you, UP, and the international. While some of the movies are rather good to watch like Merah Putih and GI Joe.

I like cin(T)a a lot. I don’t know, probably just like others’ opinion, I love it because of the quotation that always pops in my head but never got the chance to say it publicly. Somehow, from that film, I presume that God (T) is indefinite, you cannot describe (T), if you try to describe (T), it means that the (T) you’re describing is not even a GOD. Why? Because (T) is beyond definition.

(T) creates love to unite the differences between us. It’s such a pity how there are some people who use the differences as an ignition to war.
(T) has His own reason why He created those differences. We should embrace those differences, instead of blaming them.

About different religion marriage, I dare not to say more about it. Religion is very private according to me and when it comes to love, I think it depends on each person’s interpretation. I mean, they got their religion, they should know their risk and so on. Thank God I’m not dating anyone who has different religion from me….

mmmm
next GREAT film is THE INTERNATIONAL.
“will you risk your own ideas for the greater goods?”

By “greater goods” here means interdependency.
How the world actually correlates and having interdependency among each others, and how good deeds and wrongdoings are even correlated. What is “just” in this world???
Nothing is objective, all there is, is only intersubjectivity… Soooo philosophical… love it to max!

mmm…
last film that I’d like to review is: “He’s not that into you”
amazingly funny, yet reminding me that Love should not be forced. Let it comes naturally. I’ll find my soulmate eventually… Just do your best in what you’re doing now.

That’s all folks for the movie review this month!
see you later~

Curcol

ahaha..

yep, udah kelihatan dari judulnya.. sekarang gw mau curcol doong..

well, cuman mau share how life’s been treating me sooo damn good.

Ada beberapa cerita yang pengen disampein sebenernyeee…
hahaa.. sekarang disampaikan dalam poin-poin aje kali yeeee

1. Jadi pelacur.
Weiiits, bukan pelacur yang suka mangkal di pinggir jalan boook… tapi pelayanan curhat…
gw ngerasa ini sebagai balas budi gw karena tempo doeloe gw dah sering curhat ama orang-orang dan sekarang gw mau bales budi dengan menjadi pendengar yang baik…
Alhamdulillah dapet banyak pelanggan.. hahaha
jadi merasa dibutuhkan deh dan hal itu sungguh menyenangkan!
Dengan menjadi pelacur, entah mengapa bisa sekedar mendengarkan, ataupun menenangkan, mencari solusi. Dari hal tersebut, saya banyak belajar tentang kehidupan.
Memang benar saya baru hidup selama 21 tahun di dunia ini.. karena itu saya bersyukur dapat banyak inspirasi dari cerita-cerita yang dicurhatkan ke saya…
Thank you guys, from you I learned about LIFE!

intinya seorang Sarah ini bersyukur sekali atas hidup yang dianugerahkan kepada dirinya ini…
AMIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIN…
ALHAMDULILLAAAAAH….

itu dulu aja deh curcol hari ini,, see ya!

Sarah Budiyani

Perpisahan|Perceraian

Bukan.
Saya bukan sedang menganjurkan perpisahan.
Namun, apabila memang pernikahan atau suatu hubungan tidak dapat dilanjutkan lagi, apa daya?

Siapa juga yang ingin hubungannya berantakan?
tak ada kan?

Berikut ini ada cuplikan dari novel Clara Ng berjudul “Tea for Two” yang menurut saya menyedihkan, menohok dan menginspirasi.

“Tapi aku mencintainya.”

“Tidak, Sayang. Cinta yang sehat adalah cinta yang mengeluarkan arus positif untuk dapat saling menghidupkan. Cinta yang penuh penderitaan bukanlah tanah yang gembur untuk dapat menumbuhkan benih apa pun. Benih akan mati tercekik di tanah liat yang kekurangaan air.”

“Setiap saat aku berkata aku mencintainya, itu berarti aku mencintainya selama-lamanya. Sampai akhir usia hidupku. Aku akan menunggu Alan. Aku akan setia menunggu dia berubah.”

“Sayang,” sahut Carmanita. “Sampai berapa lama lagi kamu menyadari bahwa Alan tidak akan mampu mencintaimu dengan pantas? Berapa lagi jumlah perselingkuhan, pemukulan, penyiksaan baik verbal maupun tidak, yang akan kamu hadapi di masa depan?”

Yup, secuplik penggalan dari novel tersebut yang menceritakan tentang wanita bernama Sassy yang menikah dengan Alan. Sassy yang tidak tahu lagi mana yang benar mana yang salah ketika dihadapkan dengan kenyataan bahwa Alan hanyalah seorang bajingan. Dia begitu mempercayai bahwa pernikahan adalah sesuatu yang sakral, yang suci. Namun, apakah kita mau pernikahan kita dipupuk di tanah yang dari awal sudah mati?

Temans,

Umur kita makin lama makin tua, bijaklah kita dalam mencari pasangan. Tentu kita tidak mau hal di atas terjadi pada kita. Jalan hidup kitalah yang menentukan. Namun, apabila hal tersebut terjadi pada kita, Ingatlah.. TIDAK ADA YANG ABADI.

Tidak perlu kita bunuh diri.

Sebangunnya kita dari mimpi buruk itu, kita harus mengerti bahwa dunia ini masih begitu indah…

Tuhan tidak menciptakan kita untuk kita menyia-nyiakan hidup kita bukan?

So, if you are having a difficult time with Perpisahan|Perceraian.

Just do good deeds. You still have friends and family. Of course if you believe in God, you will always have Him by your side.

The story of the novel really good. It takes you like a rollercoaster. So, DO read the book.

Sarah Budiyani

lanjutan dari sepenggal novel tersebut:

“Jangan terlalu keras pada dirimu, Sassy. Pernikahan memang perlu diperjuangkan, tetapi pernikahan tidak butuh kematianmu untuk dipertahankan.”

“Alaaaah, kamu ga butuh cinta yang lebih besar, Sassy, Kamu ga butuh lelaki yang mencintaimu lebih dahsyat. Kamu membutuhkan pendamping yang mencintaimu dengan lebih baik”.

Sassy berpikir keras. “Saya tidk terikat kepada Alan, tapi mengapa rasanya seperti terikat kepadanya? Saya selalu kembali kepadanya, seperti laron yang tertarik mengitari api kemudian mati terbakar oleh panas itu. Saya tidak bisa melepaskannya. Jika saya berpisah dengannya, rasanya seperti ada kepingan diri saya yang hilang.”

“Itu dia!” gumam Tata. “Kita tidak merindukan pasangan kita. Sebenarnya, kita merindukan diri kita. Merindukan diri yang pernah kita serahkan kepada pasangan kita.”

“Tepat”, tukas Nathesa. “Itulah yang sebenarnya terjadi. Saat pasangan kita menjadi abusif, dia mengambil bagian yang sangat besar dari apa yang kita miliki di dalam diri kita. Seseorang yang abusif pandai mengeruk dan memaksa pasangannya untuk menyerahkan bagian-bagian itu. Mula-mulanya mungkin kita memberikannya dengan pasrah karena cinta. Tapi lama-lama, kita terbiasa memberikan itu sehingga rasanya tidak ada yang aneh.”

“Jika kita kehilangan pasangan, sebenarnya kita kehilangan diri kita sendiri. Kita menjadi tergantung kepadanya, karena bagian penting diri kita dimiliki oleh pasangan kita. Seperti air yang mengalir ke laut, itulah metaforanya. Laut sebagai sumber kehidupan yang berada di dalam diri pasangan. Kita semua adalah air, merasa harus mengalir menuju laut.”

“Lalu apa yang harus dilakukan untuk memotong mata rantai yang tidak sehat itu?”

“Lepaskanlah perasaan tergantung itu. Relakan sebagian dari diri kita, bagian yang sudah kita berikan kepada pasangan. Rasanya memang menyakitkan, mengerikan waktu membayangkan diri kita yang tak akan pernah utuh lagi. Seakan-akan kita adalah makhluk yang cacat. Cobalah menatap lagi dirimu di cermin ketika kamu melepaskan pasanganmu. Kamu tetap perempuan yang sama, dengan diri yang sedikit berbeda, tapi tetap cantik.”

Smile and Thank you!

Hello guys,

after I fill my weeks with negative energy, I think it’s time to go on with my positive energy…

Today’s post is about Smile and Thank You.

Probably, there’s already plenty of posts saying about this, But I’ll say it again since it is the easiest-good-deed to show to other person beside giving money to the beggars, and so on.

Smile.

Before, I remember there’s someone saying that always smiling make me like an SKSD (Sok Kenal Sok Dekat or annoying in a way like we know all the people around us)…

Well, for those people who think that it looks like an annoying act, then I’m sorry… But I believe, that deep down inside their heart they are actually happy when I smiled at them *so narcissists, ain’t I ?? *

Okay, back to the topic.. Smiling has the same effect like laughing, which is increasing the “happy” hormone inside your body and can actually relieve your stress away.

By making yourself happy, of course the people surrounds you will be happy as well! Just doing simple act like smiling can actually easer your and others burden as well!

Thank You.

For me, saying thank you is harder than begging for forgiveness…

Why? begging for forgiveness is somehow a common thing in here. The fact that they know their fault is good, but I hate the fact that after they say forgiveness, they still do the same mistake.

That’s why it’s not hard saying “I’m Sorry” these days.

BUUUUUT, saying thank you is SUPER HARD.

Thank you to God => Do you realize that we usually do this whenever we are in trouble, and then He helped us in a way?

Thank you to Parents => Do you realize that we seldom say thank you to them even though we know the fact that they already put countless effort for us?

Thank you to your surroundings => mmm… guess what? You only say thank you when you are being helped.

For me, I did that too…

But, after some contemplations, I realize that we should say thank you as much as we can, whether we are being helped or not…

Why? Because… Thank you, is the simplest way of showing that we care for them, we appreciate them…

So, start smiling and saying thank you as much as you can!

And, if you can… you can also HUG them when you really-really wanna show your BIGGEST gratitude…

because “These hands aren’t made for killing, these hands are made for hugging”…

Best Regards,

Sarah Budiyani

About myself through quiz.

Hayooo..Hayooo.. dicoba inih quiznyaa!
menurut gw, bener lhooo!
link: http://www.quizbox.com/personality/test82.aspx

Your view on yourself:
You are down-to-earth and people like you because you are so straightforward. You are an efficient problem solver because you will listen to both sides of an argument before making a decision that usually appeals to both parties.

The type of girlfriend/boyfriend you are looking for:
You are not looking merely for a girl/boyfriend – you are looking for your life partner. Perhaps you should be more open-minded about who you spend time with. The person you are looking for might hide their charm under their exterior.

Your readiness to commit to a relationship:
You prefer to get to know a person very well before deciding whether you will commit to the relationship.

The seriousness of your love:
You like to flirt and behave seductively. The opposite sex finds this very attractive, and that’s why you’ll always have admirers hanging off your arms. But how serious are you about choosing someone to be in a relationship with?

Your views on education
Education is very important in life. You want to study hard and learn as much as you can.

The right job for you:
You’re a practical person and will choose a secure job with a steady income. Knowing what you like to do is important. Find a regular job doing just that and you’ll be set for life.

How do you view success:
You are afraid of failure and scared to have a go at the career you would like to have in case you don’t succeed. Don’t give up when you haven’t yet even started! Be courageous.

What are you most afraid of:
You are concerned about your image and the way others see you. This means that you try very hard to be accepted by other people. It’s time for you to believe in who you are, not what you wear.

Who is your true self:
You are full of energy and confidence. You are unpredictable, with moods changing as quickly as an ocean. You might occasionally be calm and still, but never for long.

I love Anas Urbaningrum!

weiiits,
saya ga ada maksud buat ngerebut pak Anas dari istrinya kok!
saya hanya ingin mengutarakan kekaguman saya terhadap dia..
Well temans, mungkin sedikit banyak kita sudah mengenal sosoknya di layar televisi sebagai Tim Sukses SBY-Boediono. Namun, kenapa saya lebih mengaguminya ketimbang SBY-Boediono???

1. Figur politikus yang ideal.
Dia pintar bermain kata-kata, menjaga emosi dan beretorika. Dia selalu senyum ketika diserang oleh tim sukses capres lainnya, dan bisa mengucapkan satu patah kalimat yang bikin tim sukses lainnya naik pitam, padahal dia sendiri hanya tersenyum saja.
2. figur suri tauladan yang baik.
Penjagaan emosi yang baik, religius, dan sayang istri dan anak merupakan salah satu karakterisktik yang saya sukai dari bapak yang satu ini (terbukti jarangnya pemberitaan miring tentangnya, mantan ketua HMI, dll)
3. Masih muda dah gitu cool, calm, confident lagi! Gila ya booook, dia umurnya masih 40 tahun lhoooo! tapi klo di depan TV, beuuuh, argumentasinya menohok para lawan tanpa emosi. I’m in love with this guy!

Last but not least, I think that he fits as our next President 2014!

Go,,Go,, Anas Urbaningruuum!

Blind Love

this content is taken from a book called “The Victims of Love” by: Abul Hamid Abid al-Maslami.

I’m just going to review this book on BLIND LOVE chapter.

Mohammad Prophet once said: “Ya Allah, I beg Thee for loving Thee, love for the people who love Thee, and love for the things that can lead me to love Thee.” (Hadist Tirmidzi)

“Isyq” or Blind Love according to Ibn al-Qayyim, is a love that is soooo strong as if the world is filled with the one we love. All shadows, memories, and thought will always think and correlate with him/her (the one we love).
In this kind of state, the soul of a person who feel this way will be haunted with nervousness and depression and somehow that person will feel powerless. If you happened to be in this kind of state, you are detected as having a BLIND LOVE. This disease will change your attitude, behaviour, and life orientation – into something destructive.

In the beginning, BLIND LOVE felt soo sweet and happy. Next time, you’ll feel sick, restless.. in the end, if you don’t get God’s help, it will end up to death (you know the suicide stories of a broken hearted people).

Ofcourse, people who fall in love in this way is indeed wrong because s/he has torn his/her life on his/her own way…

Then, what can we do to cure this illness????

In Islam, once people are having the end of BLIND LOVE, they must go back to TAWHID. Because, BLIND LOVE occurred if those people are ignorant and being farway from their God.

If ones are able to do this, then time will make him/her to feel IKHLAS. A feeling of letting go and go back to God.

Why Blind Love is considered as wrongdoing?
1. instead of thinking and loving God, they tend to overly love a human being.
2. the ones who have blind love tend to be torn apart from their loved ones. even in some cases Blind Love could make people having more meaning to their lives, but in the end, it will give a tremendous broken heart.
3. People who fall into blind love, somehow will also fall into the hand of his/her love one and will be filled with desire and lust. Because s/he was tooo in love, they were just too blind to feel those and can not really let go of themselves. People who have blind love is somehow pictured like a prisoner trapped in the prison of love.
4. They spend time more with the one they love rather than spend more time doing good deeds and God’s commands.

so, I ask for those people who read this. Please do some self-contemplation regarding this.
I don’t want people to fall into the same mistakes that I did…

Best regards,
Sarah Budiyani.